My sister and I got into an interesting discussion today, and I thought I would post some of our ramblings on here that we were conversing about.
A totally random question that we came up with...is it possible to like more then one person at a time?
Discount when you're a kid, as getting crushes on multiple people quite often happen. But what about when you're older, and you have more of a sense of what liking someone means (well, hopefully you do..) and are able to have more depth to your thoughts about why you might like the person that you do.
So..can you "like" more then one person at a given time?
The thought that we had (keeping in mind it's just a random thought, and not directed towards anyone)...
If you claim to have feelings for both person 'a' and person 'b' (and maybe a 'c' as well..) then doesn't the mere fact that you "like" multiple people prove that you really don't have strong enough feelings for just one of them as you aren't able to focus yourself on just one person..and really then, don't actually like either of them? Sure, they both might be swell people, and you can see the potential...but are you really capable of having true, genuine feelings for more then one person at the same time? And if you answer 'yes' to that question...then how serious can you really be about these people if they aren't even worth being the the soul focus of your attention and emotion? Hmm...
I think maybe my sister and I are just mind boggled at the thought of liking more then one guy at the same time...as liking just one at a time is more then enough to stress out the mind and cripple the emotions (lol).
So, not sure if anyone has any thoughts regarding this issue..but if you do..comment away! I'd love to hear it!
4 comments:
Keeping on your hat of this being hypothetical, etc etc,
I believe it really boils down to your defintion of Like, and how easy that Like can be obtained?
My thinking is that if you do "Like" more than one person at a time, than your idea of "Like" isn't actually genuine, or that any of the people in question, don't fully fit the person you are really after?
Well, if the 'like' can be very easily obtained..then I think that would demonstrate that the person still hasn't gotton their defintion of 'like' straightened out..
..and yes I concur with that the idea wouldn't be genuine and the person(s) in question wouldn't fit what u are really after..
..it'd be more of a situation of liking ppl just for the sake of doing so, or to make life more interesting i suppose...
The problem is, if your committed to a relationship, what happens if you do feel that way?
Because in reality, there could probably be people that you would "Like" to hang out with that arent ur 'partner', if you were in a committed relationship
I think it more comes down to that who would you like to hang around more? or even who does your heart hurt for more
but i think this is one thing u'll never get a straight answer about
but i probably should blog my thoughts about it :P
Sharon..yah..there really is a lot of ppl in this world, and I realize that more and more as I travel. Not only are there unlimited possibilities of places to visit, but also ppl to meet...so the idea of only one someone being meant for you...maybe we just shouldn't limit ourselves to the convient relationships, or those that fall into our laps..theres a big world out there i guess...
I do agree that it's possible to connect deeply with more then one person at a time..but then I think it matters how you go about it. If you have a bit of a problem with "emotional fornication" or getting some personal need or desire fulfilled by emotionally connecting with ppl, and feeling desired by them...then I think thats something you need to work out with God. Deep connection with ppl is good..but not when emotions get involved..or several ppl and emotions get involved...
if there are ppl that you would "like" to hang out with..or feel connected with..when you are in a committed relationship...then I think you need to check what "needs" you're fulfilling by these other connections that you aren't getting from God, or the relationship you're in..and make sure that your intentions are in the right place and not modivated by a selfish desire...
but I would like to think that it doesn't come to who would you like to hang out with more..but instead you get a solid deep connection with someone and know that it's them...but thats coming from the idea that I wouldn't want to be "picked" over someone else or in the position of being compared to someone else that their heart might hurt for more..but rather be someone who they just know they want..
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